Lesbian Marriage

Mar 13th, 2007, in IM Posts, by

Lesbian marriages among Indonesian workers in Hong Kong.

Indonesian overseas workers, or those in Hong Kong specifically, are said to be increasingly likely to enter into lesbian "marriages".

Tania Roos, a worker from Malang, East Java, said in the last year or so many lesbian marriages had taken place, at first secretly but now more out in the open. Tania snuck herself into one of the early ceremonies, pretending to be a lesbian herself, and took photos.

Just recently Tania said she had received a formal invitation from a lesbian couple intending to get married. After being married the couples continue to live separately, at their employer's homes, and only meet on holidays when they rent hotel rooms.

Tania thinks that the women workers get married in this way because of a shortage of Indonesian men in Hong Kong, or because they were hurt by a previous boyfriend/husband. [1]


23 Comments on “Lesbian Marriage”

  1. avatar Ihaknt says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 4:35 am

    Mmmm, interesting topic. I’d like to see the wedding nite or holiday video.

    Tania thinks that the women workers get married in this way because of a shortage of Indonesian men in Hong Kong

    Can anyone see what’s wrong with this line? Of course there is a shortage dummy! You’re in HK! If you want an Indo husband/BF then you go to Indo! Sigh! It’s like saying there’s a shortage of HK men in Indo!

    Hey she has the same surname as the chick who claimed she slept with David Beckham, or am I wrong?

    I think Tania is covering her act, if her wife is a HKese then she may get a permanent visa to stay longer, no? I dont know how the visa system works, but maybe someone can enlighten me?

  2. avatar Dimp says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 4:54 am

    Hmmm.. Daffyd will definetely hate it there…..

  3. avatar Chas Caldwell says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 6:35 am

    Beckham’s lover was Loos not Roos. Anyway, this story is interesting because Din Syamsuddin isn’t going to be happy.

  4. avatar Dimp says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 7:38 am

    More information on Daffyd.

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/comedy/littlebritain/characters/daffyd.shtml

  5. avatar Robert says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 1:45 pm

    Hey she has the same surname as the chick who claimed she slept with David Beckham, or am I wrong?

    That was Rebecca Loos the Dutch/British girl, former “alternative wife” of David Beckham.

    Tania snuck herself into one of the early ceremonies, pretending to be a lesbian herself, and took photos.

    Did Tania pretend or was it for real? For a “pretending” lesbian she seems to be very well informed. Let me guess, the photos are for sale now? The couples have to buy the pics now to prevent exposure? What were her intentions with photo’s in the first place? The article doesn’t clarify.

  6. avatar Ihaknt says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 1:55 pm

    Rob, who cares? I do hope if the photos come out she will be one of those hotties, not the butchy type of lesbians. But either she was silly for thinking there was a ‘shortage’ of Indo men in HK.

  7. avatar Robert says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 2:37 pm

    Ihaknt,

    It just crossed my mind that she was starting her own blackmailing business, maybe. But on the other hand, a person who thinks that women turn lesbian because there is a shortage of Indo men in HK, isn’t the nation’s brightest and might be too stupid too blackmail another.

    I do hope if the photos come out she will be one of those hotties, not the butchy type of lesbians.

    We all do hope that. Maybe soon we can have a look at the happy couples’ wedding pics and rejoice.

  8. avatar 1ndra says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 4:02 pm

    Shortage of Indo men. :lol

    Even children knows that there’re less Indonesian abroad.

    I just wonder, will she be received in Indonesia back, with her ‘husband’.
    The answer is, NO!

  9. avatar El Grancombo Puertorico says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 7:01 pm

    I just wonder, will she be received in Indonesia back, with her ‘husband’. The answer is, NO!

    Huh? Who do you think you are to decide whether someone is worthy enough or not to be part of the grand nation Indonesia? Somekind of moral police / muttawa? – http://muttawa.blogspot.com to light up your day.

    Gente encerrado y hipocrita de mierda, tu.

  10. avatar 1ndra says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 7:34 pm

    Not just in Quran who despise the homosexual and lesbian but in Bible too.

    It’s clearly stated.

    I do have homosexual friends, I regard and respect them humanly but still despise their cursed sexual alignment and advise them that’s a very big sin and they should repent.

    And about my comments above, it’s because most people will despise her and will treat her as nothing so it will be better if they live abroad.

    Sad but true.

  11. avatar Robert says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 8:44 pm

    1ndra,

    Quran and Bible were written long time ago, since then the way mankind thinks about certain matters has evolved, at least in some points of the world it has.
    The fact that homosexuality is despised in Quran and Bible doesn’t say I have to despise homosexuals/lesbians.
    Instead of blindly accepting what is written down in certain old books, I prefer to use my own brain and accept people as they are. I don’t have any right at all to judge other people on their sexual preference. And certainly not call their way of life sinful.

    Concerning sins, the Bible says:
    “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.”
    John, 8:7

    It would be nice when people would mind their own business, instead of telling others what or what not to do. It might make this world a better place to live.

  12. avatar 1ndra says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 9:40 pm

    1ndra,

    Quran and Bible were written long time ago, since then the way mankind thinks about certain matters has evolved, at least in some points of the world it has.
    The fact that homosexuality is despised in Quran and Bible doesn’t say I have to despise homosexuals/lesbians.
    Instead of blindly accepting what is written down in certain old books, I prefer to use my own brain and accept people as they are. I don’t have any right at all to judge other people on their sexual preference. And certainly not call their way of life sinful.

    Yes, only the God is the Judge, and He has made a judge.
    And still what they’re doing is sinful.

    It would be nice when people would mind their own business, instead of telling others what or what not to do. It might make this world a better place to live.

    In human relationship we still can accept them like I’ve write above. But we should note that we are NOT legalizing it like in some countries.

  13. avatar Robert says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 9:57 pm

    1ndra,

    It is clear for me that we have different opinions, however one thing is not clear to me.

    But we should note that we are NOT legalizing it like in some countries.

    How do you wanna forbid a sexual preference? When people are gay and they now it is not being accepted by others, then they will keep it to themselves and meet other gay people in secret or in other countries.
    And what if it is known that a person is homosexual/lesbian? Do you put them in jail? Or put them in hospital to “cure”? Then what?

  14. avatar El Grancombo Puertorico says:
    March 13th, 2007 at 11:58 pm

    I don’t understand why people like 1ndra fear the gays (hate or whatever it’s called is a product of fear, no?).

    The only gays I’m afraid of are these ones: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqxumHvUkWw

    Just kidding.

    Be… a… fraid.

  15. avatar Hassan says:
    March 14th, 2007 at 10:20 am

    Robert: You said, “The fact that homosexuality is despised in Quran and Bible doesn’t say I have to despise homosexuals/lesbians.”

    As a good Muslim (and perhaps the same goes to Christians) we must not like and even hate whatever our God hates or don’t like, and we must also love what He loves. Sodom and Gomorrah did not happen without a reason, and God made an example out of the people of Lot so that we may take heed, didn’t He?

    “Instead of blindly accepting what is written down in certain old books, I prefer to use my own brain and accept people as they are.”

    Our head is God-given, and the size and shape of hats depends on the trend and our culture. When a certain trendy hats that everyone is raving about doesn’t fit your head, should you change the size of the hat or replace it with a different hat, or should you change the size of your head to fit the hat?

    We should never change God-given things, including holy scriptures. When something God-given contradicts our cultures or certain products, should we change the God given things? Or should we conform our cultures and products to His grand design?

  16. avatar Ihaknt says:
    March 14th, 2007 at 10:47 am

    1ndra, when Tania comes back to Indo, I will take her in to live with me and I will give you the link to the video of her and wife.

  17. avatar Robert says:
    March 14th, 2007 at 2:56 pm

    Hassan,

    Thanks for the head-hat metaphor, it is a nice one! Though I have some remarks.
    It is obvious the Quran and Bible take a clear stand on homosexuality, they reject it.
    I deal with homosexuality, like I do with peoples skin-color. Whether I like the color or not is not important. People have different skin-colors and that’s just a plain fact and I accept that. The same goes for sexual preference.

    Homosexuality has nothing to do with trends or cultures, it has always been there, otherwise the scriptures wouldn’t have mentioned it.
    On the other hand accepting or rejecting homosexuality has everything to do with trends and cultures, in one country you can live free as a homosexual, while in another country you will be hung or executed.

    You reason from a religious point of view, I do it from a humanistic one. I try to accept people as they come. I think that not accepting people as they are is a root of evil, which has caused a lot of misery and human tragedies in the shape of forced migrations segregation and wars. The most striking example being World War II, during which A. Hitler decided that everything that didn’t meet Arian standards should be exterminated (Jews, Gypsies, Gays, etc).

    One question remains, how would you deal with Indonesian homosexuals? What will happen with the above mentioned ladies when they return from HK? Rejecting is one thing, but what will happen next?

  18. avatar 1ndra says:
    March 14th, 2007 at 6:15 pm

    How do you wanna forbid a sexual preference? When people are gay and they now it is not being accepted by others, then they will keep it to themselves and meet other gay people in secret or in other countries.
    And what if it is known that a person is homosexual/lesbian? Do you put them in jail? Or put them in hospital to “cure”? Then what?

    I didn’t forbid but remind my gay friends their orientation is damn wrong and they should know that in their religion it’s a big sin, next, is their choice, I do my responbility to warn them.
    And about legalizing here means that Indonesia permits the homosexual marriage here. So I said, it never happened, if they want to do a marriage then make it abroad.

    I don’t understand why people like 1ndra fear the gays (hate or whatever it’s called is a product of fear, no?).

    I didnt fear the gay, if I fear them, I would never make friends with them.
    I just fear about making something haram become halal.

    The only gays I’m afraid of are these ones: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IqxumHvUkWw

    Just kidding.

    Be”¦ a”¦ fraid.

    Wew this site is one I’m afraid of, it sucks my bandwidth. :)

    1ndra, when Tania comes back to Indo, I will take her in to live with me and I will give you the link to the video of her and wife.

    Watch your back!
    Eh, no, your front. :lol

  19. avatar adam says:
    October 13th, 2007 at 2:54 am

    Y’ve been in HK 2 times, met them from chatting. What happend is, all of them is not a real lesbian/s, in fact, she’s and some of her friend whose share for my accomodation while I stay there always visit me to having sex. I am not sure how many of them I slept with. Tania is just make up story, she;s trying to cover her self, anyhow, I love to watch them in sex activity. LOL!

  20. avatar Fathima says:
    July 17th, 2008 at 12:44 pm

    HI guys,

    Guys I’m from indonesia and a devot muslim. But I’m not a perfect exemplary as a muslim coz I had had sex twice when I was in school with my best friend. That was when i wasn’t aware that homosexuality was considererd to be a sin in islam. The holy verses condemn sexual acts between members of the same sex. But as I wasn’t aware and since I really have stopped that tendency in its tracks, I think god will forbid me. I have given up my previous sin, and sincerely regret and repent for what I have done.

  21. avatar Heang says:
    September 30th, 2009 at 11:19 pm

    Dear friends here! I have browsed many information about this topic of gay or lesbian story and marriage who are now living in Hong Kong. Finally, I came up with this interesting blog. I am interested in this story. So can anyone tell me more about it? Because I would like to write more about this story for my assignment in class. At the same time, I would like to introduce myself. I am a Cambodian (hope you know Cambodia country) student and i got scholarship to Hong Kong for my Master Degree in international journalism. Now I am studying in Hong Kong Baptist University. Therefore, it would be grateful if you all help me to find out about this story. If you know the information or you are lesbian or gay and want to talk out about your own story and to let the public know, please contact me through this email: heanthy@gmail.com

    I really feel positive about those who have same-sex marriage life because they have freedom to do what they feel they are and be happy. Thanks a lots!

  22. avatar molceonly says:
    January 21st, 2010 at 12:51 pm

    Mens are hard to find i presume?

  23. avatar Denise says:
    December 15th, 2011 at 7:14 pm

    How do u get married with 2 girls at the same time to me that is reallllly wierd



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