Abdullah Aa Gym Gymnastiar

Dec 2nd, 2006, in News, by

Charismatic Muslim preacher Abdullah “Aa Gym” Gymnastiar has taken a second wife.

Abdullah Gymnastiar, commonly referred to as Aa Gym, a hugely popular preacher and holy man, has shocked the nation, particularly its women, by choosing to exercise his right to take more than one wife. Not satisfied with long-term spouse Teteh Nini Gym three months ago married a former model from Bandung, Alfarini Eridani, or Rini, 37 years old, who is divorced with one three children and currently works at the sharia banking section of Bank Panin in Bandung. poskota

Abdullah Aa Gym Gymnastiar
Abdullah “Aa Gym” Gymnastiar.

Gym, the head of the Darud Tauhid Islamic boarding school, and an often seen presence on television screens, explains that polygamy is a legitimate practice within Islam, sanctioned by God himself, but it’s not for every Tom, Dick, and Harry:

Polygamy is clearly allowed by God, but it is not recommended. Polygamy can be done in certain ways as an emergency exit.
(Poligami ini jelas hal yang dibolehkan oleh Allah, tapi tidak dianjurkan. Poligami dibolehkan dengan cara-cara tertentu sebagai emergency exit.)

It is not clear what exactly is the situation from which Gym is seeking an emergency exit.

Gym admits that his decision has upset a lot of people, especially women. He says that the two injunctions which his legion of followers most often convey to him are, from men: don’t get involved in politics; and from women: don’t have more than one wife. He says he has already discussed political issues, like the RUU Pornografi debate, because pornography is something which damages the nation, he feels bound to discuss it.

For polygamy he says that many people in Indonesia regard it as an always negative thing. Most women are not able to accept the matter, it hurts them, he says, but there is a small group of women who can. Those who criticise polygamy, he says, should remember that it is God’s law. mediaindo


197 Comments on “Abdullah Aa Gym Gymnastiar”

  1. Miss Indo 07 says:

    I used to b AA Gym’s fan,,then now i find out,,he’s just another same old typical Indonesian rich guy who’s hiding behind Islam to marry more than one woman,,
    Shame on him,,

    Frankly speaking,,there’s no difference between AA n YZ,,both just cant b satisfied with his one wife,,

    For those who made comments that his wife agree with this,,YEA RITE,,
    for Muslimah,,as if u would agree if ur husband decided to marry another girl,,if u can do that without any tears,,congrats gurl,,
    but pls,,have more pride as a woman,,

    For

    For Ismail,,i think once i’ve said,,pls dont make Christians name sound bad bcoz of ur comments,,as u said u were a Muslim,,n u feel that Islam is bad,,that’s ur own opinion,,ur own right,,but i believe every religion is good,,just depends on the people,,as a Catholic,,i believe there are a lot of bad Catholics n there are still a lot of nice Muslims,,who just marry one woman,,
    please stop all those fanatic stuffs,,becoz it’s not good,,

  2. womensay says:

    I am extremely shocked about this announcement. I’ve always looked up to you as the best Islamic cleric among the others, but right now you are just very disappointing and I don’t think I have the same respect as I always had for you before. Since you are well-known as the person who sets good example in Islamic way, I am certain that polygamy is definately NOT the way you give as one of the examples!

    Although “It is not recommended”, I am concerned once you start doing this, it would motivate other people to do it and it will seem as if you ARE recommending. And, I am pretty sure that more and more people would use “as an emergency exit” just for another reason to cover their lust! Aren’t you concerned? If you are making too much money, why can’t you just find another eligible man to marry them and pay their expenses instead? This is certainly a bad image for Islam, as well as a bad effect to our society that’s not well-educated enough to hold their lust! Have respect to women, will you!

  3. Ozark Tilangmangsa says:

    My little brother, Gym, I will support you if you married Rini to fulfill your first wife request (not you want). If not, you are same like as Rendra, Soekarno, or HB IX.

  4. Mohammed Khafi says:

    HuangeffendI said:

    Why those verses never come out before and even until now? Is it because the Muslim leader in Indonesia doesnt want this fact of Koran revealed so that HE can act upon the (intentionally created) value of Muslim perception on polygamy?

    It is not just the Muslim leaders in Indonesia, it is the Muslim leaders in all of the Arab dominated Islamic world, and it is not just polygamy. Islam has been twisted from its true path over the centuries to suit, dictators, royal rulers, despots, patriachs and the Islamic clergy. Very few of the Sunnah and Hadith have any relationship to Al Quran and are just used to control the uneducated masses. The rich and powerful are now using the system for their own purposes and anybody who attempts to change the system are labeled kafir by the religious leaders or establishment and are either silenced by peer pressure or in extreme cases killed.

    What we see in the world today is a sad sham of a once great religion, based on devotion to God, learning, knowledge, charity, caring and love.

  5. Muhammad says:

    Poligami yes…
    Selingkuh ….no…..

  6. Wayan says:

    If your wife agrees to having sex when she is menstruating, there is nothing wrong with that. Just use a condom. Be human. No God has the right to interfere in our sexual relationships.

  7. Muslim's anger says:

    Well done Aa Gym. Congratulation, finally your peni* can feel two vagin*s. If you really married because you want to help a widow you should married a poor widow not a sexy one. It is so obviously if you just want to have sex with her. Wanna try Pamela Anderson?

    —–

    First congratulation Aa Gym. Second: Do u (Aa) know how hurt Tete Nini’s feeling? If u really married coz u want to help a widow then married with a poor widow (there are a thousand poor widows in Indonesia) not married with a sexy, beautiful and rich widow. It is so obiously if you married just for sex desire. Are we right Mohhamed Khafi?

  8. Puspa says:

    Faiz, I saw your posting and I think we are on the same page.

    I have never been a big fan of Aa Gym. Somewhat, I have my own reservation towards any “celebrity” preacher. You will remember that since the emergence of Aa Gym, there have been many more preacher or so called “spritual leaders” who have proclaimed themselves as “Aa”. Sigh–I am a Sundanese, and honestly, it is really not appropriate to address yourself as “Aa”. This way, your are positioning yourself higher than your audience. So…without being prejudice…just be cautious of anyone that call THEMSELVES Aa, Gus, Ustad and the likes–these titles are to be earned and not self-granting.

    Now after things blew out of control, Aa said that it is a personal family matters and others may not judge it. This ridiculous. When a person is famous, definetely it is because the public adore him/her. In other word the public are their shareholders, thus have an expectation. But when the public express their expression the celebrity would say “please respect my privacy”.

    Last but not least: The Rasul disapproved Ali to practice polygamy because he said something like :” My daughter is a part of me and I can feel what she feels”. He said 3 times that he objected poligamy by Ali.

    May we still practice a good Manajemen Qalbu (meaning: high conscience)…like what Aa has been teaching us about…

  9. Men's club says:

    Aa Gym just show if he is a great man with a great sexual ability. That’s a man. Go on man, we support you to married with a third wife. Are you dare to try a granny?

  10. John Bernard says:

    What a STUPID comment when a parliament member (Nasruddin Narosi of Fraksi Kebangkitan Bangsa) said (detik.com 04 des 06) that what Yahya Zaini done is the same with what AA Gym done.

    What Yahya Zaini done is ADULTERY, Unfair/dishonest relationship, amoral or something ILLEGAL. But what AA Gym done is something LEGAL BUT NOT POPULAR at present. Is he (Mr. Nasruddin Narosi) the man too much DUGEM, so he can’t distingush between POLIGAMY and ADULTERY?

    I think will be more perfect and relevant when he (AA Gym) speaks poligamy when him become his perpetrator.

  11. Puspa says:

    Mr. John Bernard,

    I agree with that there is a big difference between the two cases. Apart for reasons that you have mentioned above, Yahya does not preach about the value of your heart and conscience to millions people like Aa does (and that has differed him a lot with old-time preachers like Zainuddine MZ).

    But also there is a BIG similarity between them: hurting to their beloved families (and in Aa’s case, his family consists of millions of people)..

    Back to the original: what made him choose to hurt so many millions for fulfilling his own personal need/want/desire or whatever it is…

    He has no credibility now to inflluence people’s life the way he did…sad…

  12. celeb wAnnabe says:

    Indonesian (like other people across the world too) love celeb, they crazy about popularity. so they choose people like Zainudin MZ, Rhoma Irama, Aa Gym, Ustad Jefri, Ilham Arifin, etc…as entertainment. then, everytime this celeb acting funny, the admirer get furious.

    I think it is time for the admirer to do serious thinking: do you have another better thing to do than to discuss about your celeb attitude.

    Watch the TV as entertainment please, don’t take it seriously.

    Will you consider the religious celeb is different from entertainment like Inul, Trio Macan, Buser, Sigi, etc??? one is entertainment with good religion info, the other is entertainment with good ash spinning around.

    No wonder Indonesia going no where but silliness.

  13. Wayan says:

    Many Indonesians over here do not write good English, but I don’t make fun of them, because I appreciate their courage to write in a foreign language.

    Why is it then that so many Indonesians make fun of me whenever I make a mistake in the Indonesian language ? (Like :” Go away, bule, you are too stupid because you can’t even write Indonesian”)

    English is a foreign language to me as well because I am a Belgian citizen. In the Kingdom of Belgium there is no national language. (Belgia sudah lama bernegara tapi belum punya bahasa persatuan) Belgium has three national languages : Dutch (59 % of the population), French (40 %) and German (1 %)

    Salam manis

  14. Tomaculum says:

    Wayan,
    I can tell you: even many Indonesian can’t speak good Indonesian. Read Indonesian newspapers or magazines, watch the TV. Or hear what Indonesian leaders (as representatives of a country/government/citizen/cultur)! Your hair will stand on end!
    BTW: Welcome to the world of tolerance and politeness of Indonesia!!!

  15. Bradlymail says:

    hot topics in Indonesia nowdays – AA-polygamy and YZ-aldutery. all done by well known figure in Indonesia ?

  16. Miss Indo 07 says:

    Muhammad says:
    “Poligami yes”¦
    Selingkuh “¦.no..”

    The thing is,,before u decide to marry ur 2nd or 3rd wife,,u start having a feeling with her rite?
    that’s when u start selingkuh!!
    what a stupid statement…

  17. Ronald says:

    I agree with Miss Indo 07. If you share your love, you have a love affair.

  18. Rockstar says:

    this is off topic but what really strikes me is that the fact that YZ was the leader of a so called religious department in somewhere in indo..

  19. Grace and Mercy says:

    This is what I believe and was thought:

    Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”

    “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

    “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”

    Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

    That we were made male and female (singular) and that divorce (and poligamy for that matter) was allowed by Moses (not God) because of the hardness of men’s heart.

  20. dissapointed housewifes says:

    We’re so …. so…. dissapointed when we hear your second marriage, AA (…our honest….)
    CAUSE: you are a silent killer!!

    ANDA TEGAAAAAA!!!!!!

    Melukai perasaan istri anda yang sangat baik, yang dengan sabar telah mengantarkan anda berjuang meniti kehidupan dari bawah hingga puncak kesuksesan, dan yang telah melahirkan 7 (tujuh) orang anak kandung anda, sehingga istri anda harus:
    – berjuang sekuat tenaga untuk ikhlas berbagi suami dengan wanita lain
    – mengalami saat kesendirian sambil membayangkan anda sedang bercinta
    dengan wanita lain
    – menerima penyakit kelamin yang anda bawa dari wanita lain
    – mengalami rasa khawatir anda lebih cinta pada istri kedua anda karena memang
    istri kedua anda lebih cantik, lebih muda, lebih putih, baru melahirkan 3 anak dan
    menjanjikan pengalaman seksual yang baru, tidak seperti dirinya yang sudah
    melahirkan 7 anak dan mungkin sudah membosankan.

    IKHLAS MUDAH DIUCAPKAN TETAPI SULIT UNTUK DILAKSANAKAN!!!
    Tolong jangan mencari-cari alasan agama untuk merasionalisasi nafsu birahi anda!

    Kami malu terhadap umat non Muslim, karena seolah-olah laki-laki Muslim (terutama ulama2nya) identik dengan TUKANG KAWIN/BANYAK ISTRI!!!

  21. Mohammed Khafi says:

    And these hypocrites are trying to tell the rest of us how to live, how to dress, how to practice our religion, what we are allowed to read, see and believe?????

    Oh I forgot ….. At the same time as wasting, or stealing all our resources and money!

  22. Susi123 says:

    AA Gym…He is a Leader without Integrity

    AA Gym, being Indonesia Charismatic Muslim Preacher and Leader..
    He has no INTEGRITY and without integrity the influence of a Leader can be devastating. Look what he is doing to Muslim’s society..they bear all the shame of their Leader’s behaviours.

    Leadership has its privileges, but more important””it comes with huge responsibilities.

    Well, I think, this is a best way to evaluate the leaders. “Honesty is the best policy” (Benjamin Franklin)..

    I pray for Muslim people in Indonesia will be healed from their spiritual wound caused by their Leader; and they will find the true leaders with integrity honers and glorifies God. Amen..

  23. Faiz says:

    I AM SLIGHTLY LITERATE ABOUT FIQH, so correct me if I am wrong

    While SOMETHING it has been WRITTEN PERMITTED, it doesn’t always can be done 100%, DEPEND ON CIRCUMSTANCES that will judging the OUTPUT…

    SEE….
    >> Brushed your teeth is MUBAH and GOOD HEALTHY for your daily life, in non fast days… but IN DAYLIGHT on FASTING MONTH it would then is MAKRUH

    >> Lamb is HALAL and then EATING LAMB STEAK is HALAL for HEALTHY PERSON… But for PEOPLE

    WITH ACUTE HEART ATTACK POSSIBLITY eating 2 portion LAMB STEAK can be labelled HARAM
    Lamb is halal (for healthy person), but EXCESSIVE FOR UNHEALTHY PERSON IS BECOME HARAM

    >> Drinking one glass water is MUBAH of course HALAL,
    But Drinking 2 Gallon of water (that would probably kill you) is then HARAM
    Water is halal but the ACTION MAKES IT HARAM

    IT IS NOT ONLY JUST ONLY STOP WHETER THE ACTION IS PERMITTED OR NOT MATTERS,

    ..ITS NOT THAT SHALLOW KIND OF RELIGION…

    AFTER IT IS WRITTEN PERMITTED OR NOT,
    REGARDLESS MOSLEM OR NOT..
    GOD ALMIGHTY BLESS US ALL HUMAN WITH WONDERFUL TOOLS CALLED AQAL

    SOME OF THE MAIN FUNCTION OF AQAL ARE TO ANALIZE, PREDICT AND MEASURE
    WOULD SUCH ACTION IS NECESSITY TO DO SO THAT BRING GOOD THINGS TO HIM, HIS FAMILY, AND HIS COMMUNITY.. OR ELSE BRING DAMAGE THEM…

    THE SKILLS TO USED IT THEN SO CALLED WISDOM…

    GOOD LEADER HAVE LOT OF WISDOM,
    ALWAYS THINKING ABOUT HIS PEOPLE NEEDS FIRST BEFORE HIS OWN NEEDS AND DESIRE…
    NOT ONLY TELL THEM, DRIVE THEM TO GOOD DESTINATION, BUT ALSO MAKES THEM SELF CONFIDENCE AND PROUD OF THEIR COMMUNITY (..MOSLEM COMMUNITY IN AA GYM CASE..)…

    BUT IF WE LET (CONCSIOUSLY OR NOT, BLINDFULLY BY SO CALLED LOVE??…)
    NAFS (EVIL SIDE) TAKE OVER AQAL,
    … BELIEVE ME, EVERYTHING THEN CAN BE HAPPEN, ….
    AND EVERY THEN DALIL CAN BE FABRICATED TO LEGITIMATE NAFS PURPOSE….

    >

    ITS VERY UNWISE AND NOT PROPORTIONAL TO COMPARE ONE OF US WITH PROPHET MOHAMMAD SAW…

    WHO IS MOHAMMAD SAW (THE CHOOSEN ONE) AND WHO IS OURSELVES (ORDINARY PEOPLE INCLUDING AA GYM)…?

    EVEN GOD ALMIGHTY HIMSELF HAS ALREADY GIVE PRECAUTIONS.. “..IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO KEEP ‘ADIL’ BETWEEN THEM…”
    .. WELL, ADIL IS NOT ONLY QUANTITY BUT MORE TOWARDS QUALITY…
    AND WHETHER IT IS ADIL OR NOT.. ITS DEEP INSIDE IN HEARTS AMONG OF THE WIFES…

    EVEN IN PROPHET MOHAMMAD CASE, 2ND ONE IS OCCURS AFTER 25TH YEARS OF HIS FIRST MARRIAGE.. 25 YEARS DISTANCE BETWEEN 1ST (HADIJAH AT 40 YRS OLD) AND 2ND (HADIJAH AT 65 YRS OLD)…

  24. Arab community says:

    I was not quite sure what’s on AA’s mind when he proposed to his 2nd wife. Does he ever consider his 1st wife’s feeling before he actioned it? I would not have a clue! I personally do not agreed with polygamy but decision has been made. All I can say to AA is congratulation on your 2nd wedding. Hope you find happiness…

    To all who support AA:
    Just a friendly reminder, what AA did is a bad example. Please do not follow his footsteps if you can not treat everyone equals otherwise soon you will regret.

    To those who against AA:
    I read so many negative comments regarding this issue. . you all have been blessed that your partner do not cheated on you, so lets keep it that way. Be committed and faithful… I know it’s easy to say huh but I hope you all can implemented!! I wonder how AA cope with pressures if he read all of your comments. Ckckckckckk…..

  25. Faiz says:

    I was not quite sure what’s on AA’s mind when he proposed to his 2nd wife. Does he ever consider his 1st wife’s feeling before he actioned it? I would not have a clue!

    You would never have an easy clue..
    basically we believe Teh Nini is good wife not a typical celebrity,
    always keep good name of his husband anyway, regardless what she feels…
    maybe she would say something regarding what she feels… somewhere in this 1 or 2 years… not in this short period…

    To those who against AA:
    I read so many negative comments regarding this issue. . you all have been blessed that your partner do not cheated on you, so lets keep it that way. Be committed and faithful”¦ I know it’s easy to say huh but I hope you all can implemented!! I wonder how AA cope with pressures if he read all of your comments. Ckckckckckk”¦..

    you forget something.. or maybe our wive(s) so blessed because we don’t cheated her (them??.. haha..)…

    easy or not easy implement it is depend on where you start the bonding process…
    could you tell me how your feels with your current partner(s) / wive(s)?
    …are you feel just happy or are you feel have fun being with her(s)?..

    I think normal good adult man (including AA Gym) can take responsibility upon his own action, regradless good or bad, it should be easy to explain…

  26. Ozark Tilangmangsa says:

    When first I watched Gym on TV long time ago, I think he will not take the second wife. Because he always says about the ideal Moslem family. Its too high to dream….! But now, it has to be the reality.

  27. Faiz says:

    When first I watched Gym on TV long time ago, I think he will not take the second wife. Because he always says about the ideal Moslem family. Its too high to dream”¦.! But now, it has to be the reality.

    yea brother..,
    most of my friend and family agree with you,
    but, many times in this universe TOO GOOD WILL ACTUALLY NEVER CALLED GOOD ANYMORE,
    …too look good SOMETIMES means there is something hidden behind, some secret behind, until one day God Almighty dismantle someone’s MASK…

  28. tothelighten says:

    I have no comment …
    Marriage is an area man to woman, woman to man to find legality. OK!

  29. Arab community says:

    Correct! You can say it the other way around. That does not worry me.

    FYI, yes indeed, we were happy together. Enough said!!

  30. Faiz says:

    Correct! You can say it the other way around. That does not worry me.

    Well, I just check all possibility brother.. hehe..

    FYI, yes indeed, we were happy together. Enough said!!

    we also happy + always fun together too,
    Thank God Almighty..

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