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8:23 am
July 27, 2009
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Mr Max
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Post edited 5:25 am – August 2, 2009 by Patung
Hi all!
Firstly, I must say what a great site you've got here! I've been reading all the posts on mostly 'Dating Indonesian Women', to be honest, and there are some fantastic and hilarious stories and comments which I've really enjoyed. I hate to say the ones I like the best are the 'romantic' dilemmas between bules and the wrong girls! This is probably because, unfortunately, I can relate to them the most! But my sincere and honest question is, for a bule who wants to do the right thing, where do you find the right girl?
I'd be really interested to read romantic success stories about where you met your right bule or girl? Or listen to advice about where you think the right girl would be?
I rule out 'Work', for a start, because I never mix business and pleasure (and would like to avoid that possibility in a partner, too!!!)
There's also blogs in abundance on Blok M, but from the occasionally lurid accounts I've read there, I suspect that My Bar, TG's, Oscar's or D's place may not be the right place to meet her? I don't really think meeting girls in bars works for me, full stop, whatever the bar, even in the UK. And, to be honest, I don't really like hanging around other expats in expat bars, either. I don't want to meet a girl whose English is so good for that reason!
I've read of blogs suggesting the self-confident, attractive and immaculately presented bule should try smiling broadly in shopping malls, and acting on any reciprocal smiles he is lucky enough to receive? Do you think so? Could it really be that easy?
I suppose I should clarify what I define as the 'right' girl? But I do so on the condition that other forum members do not take me to task for being too prescriptive, and that, this doesn't prevent anyone from suggesting places for other members to meet their right girl in this thread.
So, I guess, firstly, for me she's got to have a good heart. Heart being more important than anything! Second, it would be nice if she's educated at least to first degree level, discipline unimportant. Thirdly, it would be nice if she has her own career. And finally, it would be nice if she comes from a good family. Let's say she doesn't need to speak any English as I am fluent in BI.
However, now, I fear, this is starting to look more like an advert for a dating site than a genuine question! Please, I have no interest in dating websites or meeting anyone online, and I stress I am genuinely looking for the right place to meet the right girl in person?
Secondly, I fear even more, that I should say a little bit about myself, thus irrevocably reducing the comfortable anonymity I have been enjoying so much so far! Are you sure you don't want to talk about venues a little bit, first? I mean the Opera House vs the Art Gallery? The book store vs Monas? Starbucks vs McDs? Not yet? Me first?
I am… ouch, this really hurts… the possessor of an absolutely enourmous heart, of course, firstly!  I am at least educated to first degree level, particularly, in an unimportant discipline (!) I have my own career and I am very successful in what I do, although, I stress, in the humanitarian field, rather than big finance, so I'm not oil rich! (Can we get back to the venues, yet?) I come from an honest, decent, modest middle-class family and I am Catholic. (Please don't suggest church, it just doesn't work for me somehow!) I am single, in my thirties, never married, and have never had children but would like a family one day. (Now this really is sounding like an advert! Sorry!!!) Oh yea, and looks wise, Brad Pitt would be jealous!  I am tall, dark and handsome, with Max appeal, without any ego whatsoever, just a modest bule trying to find the right girl!
So now can we discuss venues? Any stories? Any ideas? Please ??? 
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10:04 pm
July 27, 2009
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Patung
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Post edited 6:50 pm – July 27, 2009 by Patung
Hi Mr Max…..I'd say work and church are the best places but you've ruled them out which isn't making it easy.
I've read of blogs suggesting the self-confident, attractive and immaculately presented bule should try smiling broadly in shopping malls, and acting on any reciprocal smiles he is lucky enough to receive? Do you think so? Could it really be that easy?
Yes I've heard that can work too, girls who work in shops are the ones who might fall to your smiling charm if you approach them….there was a long since defunct blogger called Indcoup who always counselled that Sogo on weekdays was best for that…
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12:05 am
July 28, 2009
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Suryo Perkoso
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Patung my dear chap, I do feel that Max may be pulling your pipe.
Let's look at the evidence – fluent Indonesian, and such modesty, not to mention pecuniary stability, how can the boy fail?
From experience though, the "fluent Indonesian" extends as far as "satu bir, dingin sekali" and the wonderful handsome face ends up being rather like a 3 holed wart.
Reading Old Max's description, I could end up fancying him myself……
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1:32 am
July 28, 2009
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Patung
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Yeah, I've got half an idea who it might be as well….
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3:36 pm
July 30, 2009
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BrotherMouzone
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I, too, suffer from a similar problem. Despite being six foot three with the body of a Greek god and a schlong the size of Monas, I also can't seem to find a girl in that barren, hotty-less wasteland known as Jakarta.
Maybe it's because I'm so desperately attractive. Maybe it doesn't help that I only earn $7000 dollars a month or that my farts smell like Chanel no5. Or maybe it's the fact that I have a six inch tongue and the ability to breath through my ears that's putting these girls off.
Or is it my tendency to make up online personas and post trollish guff on Internet forums in the hope that lots of people will comment and thus somehow validate my sad, bleak, abyss of a life.
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8:04 am
August 1, 2009
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Farah
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Just got back from jakarta, and return to my jungle.
It is interersting to read when a guy (expat too) with lots to offer said they can not find good girl in Jakarta.
You don't mix business and pleasure, its true. But thats the one best pace to find educated girl with real job, at least you know she work 
Good girl that have work here in indonesia mostly i think is not a regular costumer in a bar, thats for sure.
Like in jakarta you have to wake up and leave the house before 6 to go to your office, hou could you expect them to hang out in bar until late like every day?? bar, night clubs, not an ops i think. They've been friendly because they sometimes already drink few glass and don't even know what they're talking. (ouch..)
Hehehe… speaking good english not always because she is a bule hunter a.ka gold digger, could be because she work in international company that need her to be able to speak fluent english, or because simply she had good education.
She could be anywhere in public transport, shopping groceries, book shop… the problem with expat sometimes because you're too afraid the girls can not speak english, you didn't say anything to girls that you like/meet somewhere, at least said g morning is a start, or a smile.
Nice good local girls only human, if you're nice i can't see why they can't be nice to you.
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9:32 am
August 2, 2009
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Mr Max
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Post edited 4:53 am – August 2, 2009 by Patung
Wow, I can't believe how many people have read this thread! Thank you to all of you! And to the posters…
Firstly, Patung, thanks a lot for being genuine and taking the post seriously. I am grateful and I will certainly check out Sogo. (But, sorry, you don't know me!)
Secondly, Suryo, thank you for your post too. I aint into pulling anyone's pipes, but it is kind of you to say you like my description. I am genuinely interested in other people's genuine suggestions.
But, thirdly, if BrotherMouzone's literacy is any measure of his breath, it stinks! His 'sarcasm' is really rude – 'schlong and bucks' –  and, frankly, just unfunny!  Rather than an 'online persona', I suggest he finds a 'Personality'! And maybe try and get out of the house more often! And perhaps ask his mum if he can do his own laundry for a change?
On a more serious note, his hate towards me , when he suggest this post “somehow validates my sad, bleak, abyss of a life,” says more about his life, I fear, than mine. I mean, why would anyone have so much hate in them to write this? There was nothing “sad” or “bleak” about my post to invite it, was there?  Which I would have thought was instead rather honest and upbeat, and therefore this can only be his interpretation; and so, I must pity him.
I do hope this un-gentleman, doesn't prevent honest, upright and genuine good people from posting and sharing their genuine advice, well wishes, and success stories on this thread, please?
Finally, I am so pleased,  and grateful, to the wonderful Farah, for her post, which restored my life in the human spirit . When she writes, “ Nice good local girls only human, if you're nice I can't see why they can't be nice to you.” It is simply beautiful to hear, I mean, to read, I mean to think?
That maybe by 'simply' being nice to people, other people will be nice… What a nice idea, or just a dream…
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11:29 am
August 2, 2009
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diego
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Post edited 4:35 am – August 2, 2009 by diego
farah why are you always so busy presenting yourself as the highly-educated-busy-career-woman-with-strict-moral-standard, and what's with your constant disdain over “girls that go to bars”? somehow you remind me of some elements in my "oh so great extended family", with her classic comment over news of unfortunate girls being caught in razia malam…, like "poor them, thanks god we were raised with good values".
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5:11 pm
August 2, 2009
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Mr Max
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Diego, please, what has that got to do with the subject of this thread? It's a little sad when people like you, and BrotherMouzone, have got so little to contribute, in the way of anything positive, that all you can do is criticise others?
Go and hang out with BrotherMouzone, you'd enjoy each other's company I'm sure, and leave this thread for people who have something to share on topic!
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10:09 am
August 3, 2009
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Post edited 3:25 am – August 3, 2009 by Patung
diego said:
farah why are you always so busy presenting yourself as the highly-educated-busy-career-woman-with-strict-moral-standard, and what's with your constant disdain over “girls that go to bars”? somehow you remind me of some elements in my “oh so great extended family”, with her classic comment over news of unfortunate girls being caught in razia malam…, like “poor them, thanks god we were raised with good values”.
Diego, why you are so busy to think about me???? this is not the subject we discuss here.
If you feel offended because youre bangin' one of the girls that go to bar, well that your business. I had my own idea about them and you had yours.
Oh so great extended family ??? hehehe you mean like, my uncle is actually Mr SBY or a great major in army or short of that? LOL, your bar girls told you these kind of story? hehehe…
I love my family, but what ever they had what ever achievement they ever done, its them not mine, i got my own fangs and claws to do my own thing. Read other posts if i ever said anything like that.
Unfortunate girls??….poor them???excuse me ! working like 15-30 minutes and got hundred thousands rupsh or millions just for doing errhhh… little sweat and little bit lies and sad story here and there and earns dollars per hours?
wow… no wonder there are much lesser girls doing the job now.. right ??? less hard work, more money, sure you right they are unfortunate hahahaha !
I just said the truth, from my point of view, and you know truth is a universal thing.
Those girls are material girls, you could own their body by hours and right payment but not their heart.. not all of them like that, but mostly yeah i do think so.
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8:26 pm
August 3, 2009
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BrotherMouzone
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10:24 am
August 17, 2009
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Mr Max
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Dear BO, sorry 'BM' - it was just the stink that seems to come from any comment you make – are we all supposed to take it seriously that the reason you are so rude, insulting and offensive is because someone used too many smileys???
Or is that your idea of being funny again?
Also, are you really, I mean seriously, suggesting that your hate, remember you used the words, "somehow validates a sad, bleak, abyss of a life,” (really, abyss?) are due to my use of the phrase 'Max Appeal'?
If so, you must clearly be so without any appeal Yourself, you literally are only good for your mum (!) to bring your laundry, a sandwich, fresh mints, and whatever else you can't get yourself!
If this is your idea of a positive contribution, again, please can you keep it to yourself? I fear that all negative kids, like you, do is scare other people from contributing positively, and just create vacuums. Maybe it is no wonder you wish the 'abyss' on others, but like I said before, how deep must your own be?
Happy sucking… I mean on your fresh mints, of course!
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6:11 pm
August 17, 2009
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Suryo Perkoso
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Well Mr Max, I do see a few holes in your story, perhaps your linguistic skills aren't quite as you describe (not unusual amongst bule pretenders) or you have a face like a three holed wart, but mate, if you can't find a nice girl, then you should be in the ruang jenezah.
I can do it, though the wife strongly objects, so I'd suggest that you may be full of it.
Just to get it back on topic as your desired…….
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7:52 am
August 18, 2009
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Mr Max
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Dear SP,
You ironically write:
"Well Mr Max, I do see a few holes in your story, perhaps your linguistic skills aren't quite as you describe (not unusual amongst bule pretenders) or you have a face like a three holed wart, but mate, if you can't find a nice girl, then you should be in the ruang jenezah."
Maaf, maybe you're an 'asli' pretender, did you mean, " JenAzah?!!! You fool!!! Especially when you are 'trying to criticise linguiistic skills?" Who has the three-holed wart face now???
You Idiot.
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8:23 am
August 18, 2009
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Suryo Perkoso
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I'd take a look in "Kamus Lengkap", written by Prof Drs S Wojowasib in 1971 before you get too cocky my old fruit.
There are quite a few words (as of course you already know) that have alternative spellings, but what with you being so fluent, of course you know that. "linguiistic" skills, pray tell, what are they?
Now who is the fool?
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2:33 pm
August 18, 2009
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BrotherMouzone
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remember you used the words, "somehow validates a sad, bleak, abyss of a life,”
Actually I used the words "somehow validate my sad, bleak, abyss of a life"
Not everything is about you, Max Appeal. Narsis banget, sih!
(Translation: You are highly narcissistic – but I'm sure you already knew that).
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6:58 pm
August 18, 2009
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Suryo Perkoso
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He did BM, he surely did. He is an expert you see.
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10:06 pm
August 20, 2009
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Mr Max
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Suryo Perkoso said:
I can do it, though the wife strongly objects, so I'd suggest that you may be full of it.
Just to get it back on topic as your desired…….
Son, if we're talking about linguistic skills, I challenge anyone to translate what you have written above here into English. You write, "I can do it," Do what? "Back on topic as your desired," is this possessive? It is meaningless in English. Ask anyone?
However, I apologise for calling you an 'idiot' and 'fool', because I think you were at least trying, and are very trying. And, if the most recent dictionary you can get your hands on is one from 1971 (!), then you have my sympathies, and perhaps should put a more recent Kamus (dictionary) on your Amazon wishlist for Christmas?
And as for you kid BO, sorry, BM, what planet are you on? How can you possibly 'correct' me and write:
"Actually I used the words "somehow validate my sad, bleak, abyss of a life"
And, "Not everything is about you, Max Appeal. Narsis banget, sih!"
Are you trying to explain that you weren't suggesting I had a "sad, bleak, abyss of a life." Then who? You? To call me narcissistic in this situation is like in football calling an "own goal", "one for the team!" I apologise for not calling you a fool or an idiot earlier.
You both seem to have, if not a narcissistic, at least a nasty, self-congratulatory, bully-team going on here now for some reason?
All I wanted to know was where to meet a nice girl and I've got both of you two firing at me on all cylinders? This is ridiculous! I can't ever imagine writing a post which was critical of the poster, or their question, and negative, just for the heck of it! To do that, and not even bother to answer the question, as if what you had to say was more important than it was, you guys both reach new levels of, yes, narcissism!
Please forgive me if I don't respond to your taunts, or time-wasting, again. I have pretty much given up on any further sensible answer to the original question, for which I accept my fair share of the blame for responding to you both. This became a silly tit-for-tat, of no use to anyone, perhaps interested in the original question. And I will take my leave of this thread now, and who knows, dare risk posting elsewhere!
Please don't take any of my remarks or name-calling personally, they are just symptoms of my frustrations, and I wish you both every success in your consideration of possible future positive contributions on threads, and, I'm sure, in your lives.
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7:33 am
August 21, 2009
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Suryo Perkoso
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Can I suggest that you make your rather pathetic self congratulatory first post on Jakchat? You'll find that the reception you have received here is really quite friendly.
Regarding language – "I can do it" refers to the subject of your initial your question – despite your manifold qualities, you need someone to help you find a girlfriend, which tends to suggest that you are deviating from the truth somewhat, in any-case, if you can't get your hole, I don't think anyone is interested, you were possibly breastfed rather too long, in your case until you were 17.
I find that my various dictionaries are quite suited to my requirements, whether English-Indonesian or Indonesia -Kromo Inggil or indeed Kromo Inggil-Ngoko, but let us not worry about me, despite my linguistic failings and being just about average, "I can do it", I could (and still can) find a nice girl for a long term relationship.
I can only suggest that you search for a girl with inflatable qualities, the worst thing that can happen to you is that you forget your footpump or she gets a puncture.
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7:42 pm
August 29, 2009
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Baeksu
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If you are the possessor of such a "good heart" and seek the same in a member of the fairer sex, why not do some volunteer work at a local NGO? If you're lucky you might meet someone nice there along the way, but if not you'll be doing something far more productive and positive for society than jousting on Internet forums!
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