Just want make a new topic about bule wife (Indonesian woman) as we know there’s so many things are different between our cultures. Would be nice if can share experience.
Some people assumption about bule they are bazxxx and some people also think bule is nice.
For me bule also human and they are also same like Indonesian man, all man is same depend on what type of them. Even Indonesian man also they can cheat us or hurt us… as long as we can understand each other.
lady…u said like that because u are so interesting about bule. of course it's different think to another woman. just take a look in Bali..Lombok..or other else. oh..god..there is many bule have a gf or wife indonesian woman.mmhh…my experience when I go to bali at that time. i have been talk to a bali's woman who have a bf an australian man. they have a child, and i ask her where is your husband? she said..my husband..??i haven't married yet.though hers has a child…and many..many man of bule…behavior like that…IT MUST BE CONTEMPLATED..
My wife has a bule husband, Namely me, when i asked her why she chose to marry me , her answer is very simple, Indonesian men do not ,in general know how to treat their woman, In her eyes she see,s in Indonesian marriages, Owner ship and not a partenership. In her marriage to me all is equal, Our property, Our finances and every thing we own is in both our names, Jointly
We do not live in Indonesia now, of course, but in Austarlia where there are countless Indonesian woman married to BULE,s and may i add the large majority of these couples are extremly happy.
Like the previous poster has stated there are bules out there who are complete bastards and use Indonesian woman for their own sexual gratification,However I would bet every dollar I posess that there are more Indonesian menfolk out there who have impregnated an Indonesian woman and absconded and left her to her fate, However it is easier to lay the blame at the feet of a bule because this is the impressiom Indonesian men have of a the big spending,party going drunken westerner because these are the only ones they see, They never see the majority of BULE,s that have quiet,good jobs. The ones that spend their time with their Indonesian wives and children, building a life together,
Remember, Not all Bule,s are Bastards and not all bastards are Bule,s
i agree with you mingo, indonesiian man never appreciated their wife / gf. they treated like their good. i have enough for that. and quited to look for indonesian man. i have bule bf now, 1 year relationship, i trust him as much he trusting on me. the way he treated me so so nice., polite and always say in good words. not easy to get mad, very open minded person, for all reason i prefer to bule man.
Lialita, Congratulations, I hope you and your partener have as much fun as my wife and I have over the 16 years we have been together,Not only is it fun to enjoy each others company but the cultural differences are intrigueing,
We spend at least 3-4 weeks back in Indonesia with my wifes parents in the Kampong and let me tell you it is so relaxing with her family, Even when the local police turn up with some trumped up excuse to get money out of us, I now take this in my stride, This actually makes my day.
It is a problem in Indonesia and other so "civilized" country. There are morals and there are morals. We always care about what others do and found it with moral. If the Bali woman like to live her life and doesn't suffer because she has a child from a white man without married, so what? Throw the first stone if you believe you're innocent. I know many Indonesian men left their wife and their children without giving them money to live, I know many fatherless Indonesian children which are not mixed. What about them? If Lialita likes white men, so what? Isn't it her matter?
Indonesia. Indonesia, a country full of bigotry.
And what is "bule", do you know the meaning of "bule" and do you want white people call you "brown apes"?
I THINK IF YOU MEET SOMEONE WHO CAN MAKE YOU HAPPY GO FOR IT AND DONT WASTE YOUR LIFE COZ LIFE IS SHORT.
IT DOESNT MATTER WHO YOU WANT TO BE WITH JUST AS LONG AS YOU ARE MAKING someone happy and you are making them happy its all system go for both of you,the hell with everybody coz they are out there to judge you.
First of all, I don't like the word bule either. White people are not 'one race' just like black people are not 'one race' and netither are Asians. But OK, that's not the issue here.
I think the biggest cultural difference is between men and women, not the cultural difference between countries of origin. It is difficult enough to be living with a partner full-time and to raise children together. If there is a difference in country of origin as well, that complicates things even further. It does not mean that the marriage is doomed to fail, it just means both people need to work harder to bridge the differences.
Cheating is not linked to cultures or genders. It happens everywhere.
I'm living with my bf now in Bali, he's a foreigner working here. It has been for 1,5 years. It's not a very smooth relationship, but it's the way it is. We fight a lot, we argue a lot. Most reasons are because we have different ways of thinking. But despite of our differences, I learn a lot from him.
It isn't easy for me to step in to this relationship because of our 'east culture' which not allowed man and woman to live together without married first. Well, at least it's 'officially' not allowed. But if people are care enough to open their eyes, there are a lot of couples out there who has been living together without married. Only a few people know that I'm living with my bf now. Even my parents don't know about it. And I only share this with few of my friends. Friends that I consider open-minded enough to accept this fact. Sometimes it makes me feel very sad not to be able to tell it to my mom, but I don't think it's a wise decision to tell it to her. But I wish it would be as easy as my bf told his parents: 'hey, mom, dad, this is my gf, and I live with her now'
Wow, I am so happy to hear that there is actually an indonesian girl who wish it would be as easy as her foreign boyfriend to tell the parents about their relationship… I wish too… I also had an experience. I tried to encourage myself to introduce my foreign ex boyfriend to my parents… My parents seem tried to understand… Although at the end, they still said "no". And they didn't allow me to visit my ex boyfriend and his family. They were afraid if he would do something to me… My ex boyfriend were wondering why I had to ask my parents opinion about our relationship… In Indonesia, you would not just be marrying your lover, but also her/his family… My parents are quite open minded but still influenced by some of our old traditional culture… Sometimes I had to lie… That's what I don't understand… I don't want to lie but I don't want my parents die by heart attacks because of me either… LOL I am trying to make my parents understand. Maybe not so fast because they have lived with their traditional culture over 40 years. I can understand them. I hope they can understand me too sooner or later… :) Well… It's so complicated love accross countries Eastern to Western… I wish you and your boyfriend all the goodluck! :D
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