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peter says:
February 24th, 2012 at 10:32 amBerlian,
I could not describe it better, I guess these are pretty good guidelines from your aquantance, you need a bit of luck as its not guaranteed. Warranty till the door
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Nay says:
February 24th, 2012 at 10:42 amAll this fuss about emotional, financial etc. guarantees. Hard as it may sound, the basic reason for marriage is procreation and care for offspring.
*sigh*… unfortunately “marriage” and “child support payments” are not exactly the same thing.
…and without a DNA test you can’t even be sure that they’re even YOUR offspring.
All the rest is – however pleasant and possibly satisfying – only secondary. If partners would keep these priorities in mind, a lot less headaches will occur.
Won’t disagree with you there. Unfortunately human nature is what it is, and despite the lofty ideals we hold for ourselves (especially in regards to relationships), in the end you have to understand who you are dealing with.
As for all the guys getting fleeced: If more of you embraced the fact that you’d be much happier sleeping around with different women (totally normal by the way) instead of forcing yourselves to be the “good monogamous nest-slave husband” your significant other wanted you to be, you wouldn’t have been fleeced for all your cash and been left heartbroken — and you would have had more girlfriends and freedom to boot.
The moral of the story is that just because Eve ate the apple, as per the biblical story, doesn’t mean you have to as well.
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bonni says:
February 24th, 2012 at 11:38 amAnd an illustration to the end of that story
As for all the guys getting fleeced: If more of you embraced the fact that you’d be much happier sleeping around with different women (totally normal by the way) instead of forcing yourselves to be the “good monogamous nest-slave husband” your significant other wanted you to be, you wouldn’t have been fleeced for all your cash and been left heartbroken — and you would have had more girlfriends and freedom to boot.
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ET says:
February 24th, 2012 at 2:39 pmAnd an illustration to the end of that story
An alternative end of the story.
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February 25th, 2012 at 12:32 pmThe fairytale end of the story
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February 25th, 2012 at 1:33 pmA typical man’s life illustrated.
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February 25th, 2012 at 1:38 pmPhase 1 Single
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February 25th, 2012 at 1:40 pmPhase 2 Married
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February 25th, 2012 at 1:42 pmPhase 3 Divorced
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deta says:
February 26th, 2012 at 12:22 pmMrs Lion must have been quite a feminist…
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February 26th, 2012 at 2:48 pmI love the lion pictures, it can be so true
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bonni says:
February 27th, 2012 at 11:38 amOMG BAHAHAA Om ET! I like the alternative end of the story! Cool grampa…
Based on phase 1, Mrs. Lion might not be ‘quite’ a feminist, or was she not the lucky Mrs. Lion?
Anyway, a conversation with my boyfriend:
Me: Do you still love me that I’m a feminist? Aren’t you scared of me?
Him: I do. I’m not scared of you. Do you still love me that I’m not scared of you? -
February 28th, 2012 at 9:17 ambonni
I like the alternative end of the story! Cool grampa…
Actually the picture of the cool grandpa should have come last. After the lion gets divorced, trampled and stripped to the bone, he pulls himself together, buys a Harley, gives the feminists the little finger and goes see the world. His manes may have become gray but his semangat couldn’t be killed.
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February 28th, 2012 at 9:58 amEerh.. I must have missed the part he booked a plane ticket to Indonesia.
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kinch says:
February 28th, 2012 at 12:54 pmThis thread is *still* going?
Must be about time for a Banci Thread. Timdog?
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Bad to the Bone says:
February 28th, 2012 at 10:12 pm@Deta
“must have missed the part about the booking a plane ticket to Indonesia”
I’ve got a 67yr od friend wants to join me in Bali in 2 weeks, & my ‘istri” has lined up her sister to be with him for 4 days. he used to be a bit of a stud in his day & wants to recapture his glory days.
the sister is very hot, gorgeous body, nice personality (always smiling & extremely pleasant),had a quiet sexual life with not a lot of partners), so i think my mate will be having the time of his latter years. Get a couple of viagra into him & he’ll be as good as new.
The only trouble is I’m a bit jealous as I fancied her from the first time i met her & she me.
We have already sms’d arranging a clandestine few nights together, so i’m on a promise. so I’m thinking whether to sort another girl for him & save her for me- ah lust & greed. -
February 29th, 2012 at 4:39 pmBTTB,
You might as well consider taking him to Dufan – Dunia Fantasi – in Jakarta instead of giving him the viagra. The effect is the same anyway: a one hour wait for a two minute ride. -
February 29th, 2012 at 5:49 pmThe effect is the same anyway: a one hour wait for a two minute ride.
OK, but playing pool with a rope is no fun either.
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bonni says:
February 29th, 2012 at 5:53 pmET,
On the other side:
Then after the divorce, the feminist pulls herself together, meditating in white lotus, and finally be able to ‘do’ other man… Then she lives happily ever after with her better half…
Kinch wants some banci thread…
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February 29th, 2012 at 6:27 pmThen after the divorce, the feminist pulls herself together, meditating in white lotus, and finally be able to ‘do’ other man… Then she lives happily ever after with her better half…
No bonni, they ‘Eat, Pray, Love’
- They eat until they become obese, then
- They pray to lose weight and then
- They come to Bali to make love with the Kuta KoboisThen they go home and start all over. Or finally become PhD’s.
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bonni says:
March 1st, 2012 at 11:34 amET,
Or finally become PhD’s.
Alright then!
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Darrell Smith says:
March 11th, 2012 at 11:59 pmI am falling in love with a beautiful Lady in Indonesia I want to make her happy in every way Not a playboy so it`s important to me any advise lady`s or gents ?
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March 12th, 2012 at 4:09 pmGet an education by reading all the posts you can–plenty pro-& plenty negative.
If you are not living in Indonesia you could be / are wasting your time & emotions.
If you are living there, learn the language & their ways, never let on you are loaded, only let them know about the tip of the iceberg so to speak. Enjoy the journey.
“better to lose in love than to never love at all’.
at the first warning sign be very careful & a bit cynical about it all. read the posts by those who have done/doing it.
Bon voyage . -
frankygth says:
March 14th, 2012 at 12:51 am@DS and BTTB
Yep, I tend to agree to the advice to read this thread’s comment as part of education.
However the comments and posts (at least that is how I look at it) tend to be too cynical and not representative. This is for the advice and opinions stated by both Bules as locals.As a general guideline it is good to get this education but bear in mind and not neglect your own common sense.
If you feel good about your relation and you have practical experience with interhuman relationship elsewhere, it is same as everywhere in the world…..If you don’t have practical experience elsewhere………well then good luck….
tadaaa
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March 14th, 2012 at 12:55 amThen again, who am I to give advise. i am a sucker falling in love all my life all around the world and sofar not in stable relationship yettttt……hehehhehehe
Victim of being a man? Probably yes and easy victim in Indonesia, cozz man they’re lovely
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March 14th, 2012 at 12:56 ambtw missing the updates and input of this thread’s die hards
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wayang says:
March 14th, 2012 at 11:50 amI’m Indonesian women. western husband. We have 3 amazing kids. 7 years married .
living in State now. We were in 3 diferent country before move to State. first pregnant was in asia and born in europe. 2nd pregnant was in europe and born the twins in state. we both allways living far away from our familly. Now we are here, honestly, Usa is most nice country compare other country we were before. but the importand things are we as the familly are together. its make us strong and suport to each other.Many bad comment to “bule” and “Indonesian women” some because of story from other people, some from own experience , some is just stereotype . But whatever country, you are allways find Good women, gold dinger women,bad man,good man.
Not All Indonesian women and “Bule” are bad. many of them are good and normal familly person.
” One night after kids are sleep, my husband saw me still with my computer instead with him watch Tv . i said i was bussy chating with my boyfriend
. and he was answer if he Don’t believed at all . he allways trust me 100% . He have great , loyal and strong wife. He will only not trust me 2 things : he will not let me to cut his hair and his nail . well….not his foult . i did alittle mistake with him about that in the past sorry:-) .” -
March 15th, 2012 at 10:27 amAfter reading some comments , i just want to share a litle of our story : Before married i was independent women, have own small business in indonesia. meet him ( not in the bar
. We married in his country. after married i decided to sell my business and move with him to other country. new country for me and for him, since he just move there for work. my job title as house wife start , so bored for few months, culture shook ? yes . but take it as a challenge. he support me ? yes . and i try to support him as i can . We want to make our maried Success and happy married. and the important things because we love to each other . Now about money, it’s sensitive talk ! but our commitment is clear between husband and wife : We are in the same boat ! its all OUR ! We have talk about that before married and after He always remember me about that when i still said in the beginning: ” your…….” and he said ” our……..”
He never need to give me money and i never have to ask ( it will be very hard for me if i have to do that ) i free to use but with responsibility as like him. it’s very simple for me and him. I’m Lucky girl ? Yes I’m ! I know he trust me . And when you feel it’s also yours, you will take care !
many time he want to buy something expensive for me and when i don’t really need and i said NO. why ? Just don’t want to spend our money. always open to each other…..examples : birthday present for member of both family or many things ..we always talk to each other and decided together.
nothing to hide or send money to familly without your husband/wife know about, why should ? it’s mean stealing, stealing something what it’s yours ?? so funny. so it never happen.For us it’s make everything more simple ! one of my friend also married with “bule” she want her husband buy house in indonesia. her reason….bla…bla…bla…it’s all because unsecure feeling. but i don’t blame her because maybe she have different story.
for me it’s terrible feelings. we like beautiful villa in bali but we also like many holiday houses in other country hahaha…it’s realy doesn’t matter for us.Do we fight sometimes…oh yes
. but until now not serious things. So for some of “bule” who’s plan to marry with indonesian women
, here some from my experience, our familly. hope can help and give some idea.Peace
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March 17th, 2012 at 12:53 amThx Wayang for this comment in line with the spirit of this thread.
I understand what you mean and good to hear this side too.
This is what I miss looking at recent postshehehhehehe sorry if i make die hard posters feel bad. its a free world and this is what this threads about
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Red says:
March 17th, 2012 at 4:07 amVery intrresting! Been together with my beloved husband almost 15 years. 32 years different in our age. 2 wonderful sons, 10years old and 4years old. We are living happy
he is American and yes, i am Indonesian. Good luck finding your beloved one
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