Dating Indonesian Girls

April 4th, 2006, in Girls, Opinion, by Patung

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Tags: Dating Websites, Feminine, Indonesian Girl, Indonesian Girls, Indonesian Women, Journey, Lovely Skin, Money, Phillipines, Pitfalls, Thailand, Western Women

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Jen Says:
April 23rd, 2008 at 1:12 pm
@ Lairedion

It’s Nienna LinwÃ«lin. Hahahaha. It’s cute isn’t it?
Lairedion Says:
April 23rd, 2008 at 1:16 pm
@Jen,

Cool name but difficult to pronounce…
Jen Says:
April 23rd, 2008 at 1:21 pm
@ Leiredion,

That’s the beauty of internet, no need to pronounce or remember the spelling, just copy and paste. Hehe.
Rob Says:
April 23rd, 2008 at 2:24 pm
Indonesian women who date foreign men would be in a statistical minority. I wonder if there is research on this or are we just relying on anectdotal evidence of I have a friend who has a friend whose girlfriend dated a foreigner stuff? Or I was walking in the mall the other day and saw 4 or 5 couples where the boyfriend / husband was a foreigner?

The rules of dating are universal and rely on respect. This is particularly the case where the relationship is an inter-racial one. Respect in this sense does not pre-suppose you learn the language but it does rely on the fact that you will try and learn a little about what cultural and social expectations are, how inter-racial couples are treated, and perhaps some dating dos and dating don’ts. Ultimately, though it is a mutual learning experience.

Sometimes dating is all about trial and error, maybe dating is fun because you are not only learning about yourself but about your date as well! Isn’t this the point of dating anyway; to find out whehter you are compatible, whether you can fall in love, and whether you can sustain a monogamous commitment to each other over the long haul!

Thankfully and fortunately love does not comply with the limitations of national borders. What a sad world it would be if love did!
Jen Says:
April 23rd, 2008 at 3:18 pm
@Rob

If only everyone thinks like you… but then it will be too boring. Hehehe Nobody will argue here anymore, it’s fun to read sometimes
Farah Says:
April 24th, 2008 at 11:18 am
hmmm… not all indonesian girls went out with bule for money, there’s love, and attraction.. its true.
Some of my friend dating with bule also work, and they do pay their own bills.. sometimes bule pay them.. well.. wether with bule or no bule you do that with your bf too.. i mean.. there’s pplenty local guys too that went oout dinner with hi gf and the girl pay for the dinner..
Jay Says:
May 7th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
MELLY MELLY. Well, a lot of what melly says was wrong, I did, and was honest with her. If there was one thing I can say, I was for sure in love with her, and probably still are. The bad part was, I was unable to commit, in a time frame she wanted.

Melly since you have the nerve to talk about our relationship here, you should be able to email and really discuss it, truthfully, not one sided, and just because you have had your heart broke you told me, because of me, well, life is tuff, but I was still there, when you decided to leave it.

So don’t put it all on me. You for sure know how to reach me if you wanted to.

HELLO this happens after the phone rings.

j
Atul Says:
May 8th, 2008 at 2:53 pm
Hi

I am coming to indonesia this month, I need a girl friend to roam with, anyone can suggest me what shall I do, please mail me, I need to date an indonesian girl.
Paramitha Says:
May 10th, 2008 at 10:49 am
Hi.
i am an Indonesian. i found this website from google.
i just want to let foreign guys know that not all indonesian woman can be used just for have fun. Indonesia is a country with culture and manners, and as an Indonesian women im telling you guys, we’re not that easy to get!!
Tony Says:
May 10th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
@Atul

Relax my friend. When you arrive in jakarta check out the following places (each will vary depending upon your taste in women):

You have two choices:

North Jakarta: This is the REAL asia and the real Indonesia. They have clubs that DO NOT exist in the west. There is a club called K7 with many friendly women who like to party, the next best destination would be Golden Crown Disco, this is a techno disco but they have a lounge that is quiet, so if you meet a girl in the disco you can invite her to the lounge for drink and conversation. If you are looking to rent a girlfriend then you may want to try Hotel Travel, Sparks Hotel, 1001 Disco or Sands Disco/Karaoke.

South Jakarta: This part of jakarta is a weak imitation of clubs that you would find in any North American city of any size (NYC, LA, CHI, TOR, etc), however, many of the women you will meet in the clubs in South Jakarta are specifically looking for a foreigner or at least very open to the opportunity to date a foreigner. Many have already dated several foreigners already. The places to go are the lounges at Hotel Grand Kemang, Aphrodites in Club Rasuna, Centro Disco, Embassy Disco, Retro Disco in the Crowne Plaza or Drangonfly. Again, if you are looking to rent a girlfriend then try the famous Blok-M (Jl. Pelatehan), CJs Disco in Mulia Hotel or BATS in the Shangri-La Hotel.

I would recommend North Jakarta first as the women tend to be prettier and they are not Bule Hunters but if the opportunity presents itself they are very friendly and have not been used/abused on the South Jakarta Bule Hunter Circuit. Bule is a word for foreigners in Indonesia.

If you are looking to date, or at least have the illusion of dating then try South Jakarta but beware any women you meet in South Jakarta or anywhere else in the world for that matter that wants to be your girlfriend after the first Hello.

@ Paramitha

You have posted on this site before–why are you saying you just found it on google? Too many beers/shots at BATS eh?
Farah Says:
May 10th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
I need to date an indonesian girl.

wow… need ?? hehehe sounds bit funny..
Finally Woken Says:
May 10th, 2008 at 4:21 pm
@Tony: *cough. Nobody says ‘disco’ nowadays…
Lairedion Says:
May 10th, 2008 at 7:11 pm
Atul,

Better skip shithole Jakarta and its “disco’s” and move on to Bandung, a far better place to visit. Even Jakartans spend their weekends en masse here for the food variety, cheap outlet stores, cooler climate and friendliness of local Sundanese.

Do your research on the web before coming down and find out Jakarta is not Indonesia.
Nita andrea Says:
May 10th, 2008 at 7:25 pm
Hmmm… I dont care with all d people say.. I just need love n affection now… So 4 all d expats in jakarta, if u want 2 make a real,honest,loyal,serious relationship with me.. Find me here http://www.friendster.com/nitaandrea
Tony Says:
May 10th, 2008 at 9:36 pm
@ Finally Awoken

What is the word for “disco” now? You will have to forgive me I don’t get out much anymore but my staff tells me about all of the places to go. I have been to K7 and it seems okay but that was in 2005.

@Lairedion

Have you been to Bandung lately?? I lived there for about three years when there was still an economy there and now it is full of trash, in fact it has mountains of it. As far as the Sundanese being friendly, that is true, they are friendly. You may want to look at the waste problem there first.
Lairedion Says:
May 11th, 2008 at 1:36 am
@Tony

I visit Bandung almost every two years. The last time I was there was in 2007. My Sundanese wife is from there, my father lived there before he moved to Holland in the 60s and many of his relatives still live there and I myself have lived there for three years in the 90’s. From 4 till 11 years old I lived in Yogya and Solo so I cannot remember everything. Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that I never lived in Jakarta and I have a stronger connection with Bandung, Yogya and Solo.

You’re right about the trash, it’s shameful. Apart from that I still reckon Bandung is better than Jakarta. The city has always been more known for its creativity and uni’s than its economy. but again, you’re right about the trash and perhaps my view is somewhat colored. From Cengkareng it’s always straight to Bogor or Bandung and I visit South Jakarta in between to meet some of my other family.

For these reasons Jakarta never appealed to me and I’m afraid never will. Probably also has something to do with the global feeling of antipathy against the capital and government.
Tony Says:
May 11th, 2008 at 2:43 am
@Lairedion

I hear you. When I lived ini Bandung there was a great party scene and I was spoiled by the Sundanese women, not just from Bandung, but the entire region. As far as a creative/arts crowd–Bandung is definitely better than Jakarta in that regard.

If it wasn’t for the trash and if I could make a living in Bandung, I wouldn’t mind being there again, but my wife wont live there–she is a jakarta girl through and through.

As this post applies to dating I will state that I found less materialism and more romance amongst the women of Bandung/Sukabumi/Jawa Barat than Jakarta. In Jakarta I was always asked about my career and prospects. Although, the more educated and wealthy a woman was in Jakarta (Pribumi mostly but some Chinese) the less she cared about my own wealth (or lack thereof :)) and the more she cared about compatibility.

Just a thought.
Lairedion Says:
May 11th, 2008 at 3:34 am
Tony,

Thanks for your comment, you’re right about the Sundanese. I never dated girls from Jakarta so I have no experience with them. As far as dating Indonesian girls in relation to Westerners I’m not a good reference. I’m half Indonesian (Dutch-Javanese-Manadonese), brought up in two cultures with two languages and spent a great part of my childhood there.

When I met my wife I was working as a tour leader and was based in Bandung. I earned a local salary so compared to Western standards I was poor :-). I lived indekos with my family and wasn’t charged for that. I really didn’t have anything to offer but love but I guess that was enough for my wife. In mid-1997 she finished uni and we decided to move to Holland in May 1998. Well, we couldn’t pick a better (or worse) time to leave.

Right now I’ve no complaints whatsoever. We’re all healthy, I’m relatively wealthy, even compared to Western standards. Since 2 years I’ve got my own IT business running and I’m doing well. But my wife have been very supportive all those years, she’s working in my business and takes care of all the paperwork. This is not a daily job so there’s plenty of time to dedicate to our kids. Her current activities don’t use her potential to the full but hey, I never studied for IT either. It’s our own little business we’re running. It’s just the way it went and looking at all our poor compatriots we consider ourselves lucky despite all the hard work we put into our daily lives.

This is my story, not your classical East meets West romance.
Rob Says:
May 11th, 2008 at 4:37 pm
Lairedion…

Seems like life is good…So, we should not expected any bitter and twisted comments from you in the future should we?

There are good and bad elements to wherever we go and also to the people we meet! This is what makes the world such a special place! It also reminds me of a line from Forrest Gump (which goes something like this)…

Life is like a box of chocolates, you’re never quite sure what you’re gonna get!
Lairedion Says:
May 12th, 2008 at 3:21 pm
Rob,

How could I forget? Since I’ve no complaints about my personal life I should shut up and refrain from negative comments.
Rob Says:
May 12th, 2008 at 11:24 pm
Lairedion…

There appears to be a “gap” in the communication here as the interpretation or spin that you have put on the comment is not reflective of my intent. That intent was part tongue in cheek but nonetheless the “bitter and twisted” part refers to comments about you and your life. Simply, if life is good then there is nothing to be bitter and twisted about…but take it as you will and interpret as you wish. Thus, this is the beauty of a free democratic world.

In fact, the rest is quite to the contrary. I am not for one minute suggesting you should hold your tongue and nor am I suggesting that you should not comment on other people’s negativity. Although, I, in that case would also hold the right to comment on any negativity that might arise from or within your comments, right?

To each their own!
Lairedion Says:
May 12th, 2008 at 11:33 pm
Rob,

You’re absolutely right.
dewaratugedeanom Says:
May 13th, 2008 at 3:40 pm
Lairedion,

Since I’ve no complaints about my personal life I should shut up and refrain from negative comments.

I think so too. No more nasty comments about PCB’s (politically correct bules), please!

Lairedion… grapje
Lairedion Says:
May 13th, 2008 at 9:57 pm
Bli dewa,

Het spijt me…
Peter Says:
May 17th, 2008 at 5:10 pm
How about making friends? Gonna travel 8 weeks on Java, starting end of September.
Planning to go the easy way, not organised. Just see what comes and go !
Think it would be great to meet some new friends !
Greetzzz Peter