Dating Indonesian women may not be for everyone.
Indonesian women, particularly on the island of Java, are exceptionally beautiful. They tend towards the very feminine side, with lovely skin, are not too tall, and have knock-out smiles. There's plenty of plus on that side of things.
If wer'e to be honest we have to recognise that many men are interested in a woman who will take care of him, do the housework without complaint, and take care of other matters similarly without much bother. Your average Indonesian girl often fits the bill in this respect, certainly more than your average western woman, the less said about them the better.
On the other hand going out with Indonesian women in a romantic way can have many mysterious pitfalls.
Some women here are clearly only interested in money. Some men are unbothered by this. Others of the female variety, can, once we get to know them very well, come across as practically insane, hysterically emotional, scheming, over-possessive, inclined to, usually fake, attempts at self-harm in order to get their way. As I said, not for the faint-hearted.
There are a few Indonesia dating websites although the area is not nearly as developed as that in nearby Phillipines or Thailand. To begin your online journey on the Indonesian dating scene our very own "Meet" section has many a lady eager for company.
Salaam
i really love Indonesian people, i got may friends from Indonesia working at their embassy in my country – i am seriously thinking of getting married in Indonesia –
Wow, i just read this forum.
Well, I’m an Indonesian girl. I’m an undergraduate student from one of the most famous university in Indonesia. I study hard in order to get the best job for better life. Umm, be honest, i like “bule” because since i was six, i have had a friend from Spain and i found he is friendly, nice, and has good manner. If you think that indonesian girls just look for “bule” for better life, you make a wrong inference. I like “bule” but i want to work also if i could get married with “bule”.
Wanna get the right person? Don’t go to night club. That’s my advice.
i’m indonesian women and from this site i tried to find someone who can truly love me an except me for the way i am.i’m a divorce women and am just alone..i just want someone who can be serious and have fear to Jesus
Wuaahhh, you are a great woman sister dinche…. i agree with you.. give us all action buttons. lol
Sister.. help me to find a good bule. hahaha.. the most important thing is just God fearing 🙂
@ Red Angel
“i just want someone who can be serious and have fear to Jesus”
Why? Is he dangerous?
I think Cici above used the expression “God Fearing” but yet you chose to single out Red Angel for ridicule because she expressed what amounted to as “Jesus Fearing”. So you think it is permissible to attack obvious Christians while at the same time purposely ignoring someone who may be a Muslim? What a cowardice act from someone who spent years trying to disprove God here on the “Atheist Threat” thread. This malicious attack on yours also exposes a more fundamental problem affecting Indonesia as its become almost ok to attack minority religions in what amounts to “hate crimes”.
@Dinche – Looking for a decent Indonesian woman on the bloody Internet is a total waste of time. But why travel there as well since that’s like buying a lottery ticket so the odds are stacked against you from the bloody start? Believe me there are plenty of great Sheilas at bloody home to choose from that will be a joy to both date and marry then an overly super-sensitive bleedin Indonesian gal. I would suggest to you dear Dinche is, if you want a BULE husband, than start by CARING about him a bit and stop being so bleedin selfish! What do you expect the bloody poor BULE to do? Hack his bloody way through the jungle till he finds you… No Dinche, good marriages might be made in Heaven but good brides shouldn’t be so difficult to find. Just my bloody 2 cents of advice to a woman determined to bloody well mislead people by her self serving advice. As the saying goes “Happy Wife, Happy Life and the odds are she’s not an Indonesian gal 😉
@Dinche – your a bloody evil and a very scary woman but yet intriguing at the same time. As a confessed bloody adrenalin junkie, I think you and I will be anything but boring. So what bloody direction did you have in mind dear Dinche?
@Lomboksurfer
I can’t help but feel that you are carrying some serious baggage, mate. Sweeping generalizations about any race or gender are simply nonsensical. If you have had bad experiences, then I’m sorry to hear that. But from my experience, those expats who have repeatedly negative experiences with Indonesian women are those expats who are repeatedly making the same mistakes with the wrong girls…
@Patrick
I was poking a little fun at the wording of the sentence – not making a statement. Wrong thread for all that malarkey; I’ll meet you in “Athiest Threat” for some message-board fisticuffs if you’re man enough.
@Bro M – So you found Red Angel’s wording to be dangerous? lol!
@Oigal – are you serious? You seem anything but happy by the way you mindlessly rant and rave here on IM like a mad housewife on steroids.
Bloody hell Nay – Didn’t I just offer Dinche the bleedin opportunity of a lifetime? Besides do you really bloody well think I dislike Indonesian woman? Hell no I don’t! Love them as they are the best in the bloody world. I didn’t waste all these bloody years just to make sport of them. But now that I have your undivided bleedin attention how about you and I catch some fresh tasty waves in Bali?
P.s., I just read my previous bloody post and I throw myself at the mercy of all Indonesian tasty brown sugar babies as I was rather incapacitated from a bleedin early morning session at Stadium Club. Hung over big time and ranting and raving Mad coz some bleedin Indonesian women I took home were still in my flat and bloody well taking advantage of my kindness and refused to leave for alomost a bloody week. I bloody well ask you what’s a surfer to do when her straight hair is black and her skin is brown? 😀
Long time ago!
Nice to see the thread is still going on……
After the last time I was here in this thread, I made many trips to Asia and spend quite some time in lovely Indonesia too. Although were I am coming from I have many good friends (and we don’t call our women Sheila’s as they keep their individual names) I am not interested anymore in romantic activities back home. Don’t ask me why, maybe it’s the weather…….hehehhehehe
Or maybe it’s cozz the competition form the east 🙂
Anyway enough about me…..good to see you all.
Dinche!!! I missed you? How are you? Still having that lovely tan and smile of yours. Be happy and one day I will see you in yr remote but exiting island.
Mhhh Lombok Smurf what happened? I wish I had the time to try to understand all you say so I just scanned your 2 cents, but are you serious? Do you really mean what you said that you think back home you would be able to consider having longlasting relationship with one of your country famous Sheila’s? I must say I defenitely like the quality of your countries main product……sheep. But I prefer to have it roasted and then also as lamb. I never understood people having sex with sheeps while calling them Sheila. And also all sheep look like cheap blond bimbo’s, and never had the chance myself to have a decent conversation with them. And lastly and call me a freak, I like to kiss with the one I love. And sheep, everybody knows this, suck at that.
But Smurf, it is good you found what you were looking for. I am happy for you. And I bet your mother is more relax now. You are off the street and if she is looking for you it is easy to find you……in the shed.
Don’t get me wrong Smurfy, I amy be joking about it but I mean it well. I wish you a happy easter and sorry but I already bought myself a juice chunk of Lamb. Come to think of it…… now I have an extra reason to prefer lamb over sheep……..Don’t want eat meet that is shagged by you or one of your mates.
Now back to the topic of this thread…….Indonesian girls.
I was already more positive about them then the average complainin Bule posting in here. I found them Beautyfull, smart, developed and above all females. Off course there are some of them over obsessed with position in society and money et c etc. But……there are also many sincere and open minded girls that just want to be happy and want to create this state of happyness themselfes. Sorry if I cannot express myself well enough. I try to say that I found friends that are able to create their own happyness by achieving goals themselfes. ANd they do not rely on external means of living by leaching on Bule or other men. That is what I admire in people as this is the evolution of human need. Self development. Now I read this back it does not make sense what I write….hahhahaha But what the heck……..Happy easter everybode and mind my advice abt Lamb/sheep meat.
LomlokSmurf gonna go for surf vacation to Mozambique next week, wanna join?
Tchau
i’ve been reading most of this thread,& think the moderator got it right on the 1st page.
As sweet & feminine as Indonesian women are they are not for the faint hearted.
They have what is known as emotional intelligence– like many black & asian’s have.
They are in touch with their heart in other words, for eg. american black-‘soul music/singers, & many/most westerners feel & understand this on the 1st date.
Many westerners have lost their way with the heart & when find/see it in a Indonesian woman fall in love/ are smitten quickly.
Indonesians are said to be the gentlest people of other Asians, this too is very attractive & endearing.
The one big drawback is the crap breadline economy,which leads many poor people there to see the ‘bule’ as a meal ticket who can provide an escape from that.
Thailand is the same, but more full on, if you get involved it is likely to cost you a house.
No different to western countries & relationship responsibilitys/ needs.
If someone has been through the western ‘mill’ /, relationship & doesn’t want it again, the Indonesian option is ve ry attractive.But having said all that, unless living there, most agree long distance relationships fail.
This is my 2 cents worth of observation & experience. Yours maybe the exact opposite, wish you only the positive experience.
By the way where’s sweet Bonny?
Hey Dinche ….yea long time not hearing from you.
Eastern was ok. Hah I was in Holland with my family and my boys and wow it was great!
Now still stuck in the office but will be on the road again soon. Unfortunately first I have to be in Italy but after that back to Asia again…heheheh Cant wait to be in warmer area’s…..and I am not only talking abt the weather…:)
Other then work in Asia, I also planned vacation trip in Asia so in July August planning a backpacktrip by bus, boat and train around the islands. Heheheheh I look forward to that and the adventures I will have for sure…..
Woww you are so right, I was mean to Smurfer. Even I wrote what I wrote but shortly after doing that I felt sorry and unfortunately there is no way to pull your story back. I realized that I forgot one important thing that we in Holland generaly are proud of. And that is freedom. We are supposed to be a small but liberal country with open mind to all kind of religions and sexual preferences. ALthough for sex with animals there is now a law in Holland that makes it forbidden if there is suspected physical or mental dammage to the animal. But that is a matter of size I suppose. In anyway I would like to sincerely appologize if I hurt anyones feeling with my post. It was unintentially and not in line with my fellow countrymen. One remark is still valid and that is that I prefer lamb for the reasons I mentioned. So smurfer please let my post not restrict you in anyway. This is and hopefully always be a free world.
And Dinche, you surprice me you…..hehhehehe I am kinda proud of you…reading back the comments back and forward between you and smurf it is easy to see….but that is always afterwards. Heheheheh I wish everybody his portion of good love and attraction and as you are special for me I am happy for you. I am sure that Smurfy in reality is not the macho kind of guy he pretends on this side…..and that in reality he knows what a real woman wants and able to make you unlimited happy. But also you, woman are so sharp and naturally able to see through all the bulshit and macho talk. Smurfy must be crazy if he let’s this chance you offer him slip though his hands.
I am proud of being part of your love story and hope that you consider me for the inviations of your wedding. Did I already mention I will be on a long vacation in Indonesia July and August?
Smurfy and Dinche I wish you both all the happyness in the world…..keep us all informed please…..
Guys, no matter where you come from, no matter what you believe, if you are a bad person, you just bad. If you are a good person then you just good. You can lie to everyone about who you are. But you can not lie to your own heart. And your heart will describe who you really are. Stop blaming countries where you come from, or religion what you believe.
Cheers
I become sugar baby and I met rich Indonesian business man from indonesiansugarbaby.com and why I have choose poor bule who come to Indonesia for teaching english. many girl did not understand that many bule was living struggle in his own country and looking for asian girl friend for free relationship.
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Mr thinks that expats are first sent in Indo by their business/company and then, being there, grow an interest into the local girls rather than the other way round. Thus, it makes sense for them to learn the language. I sort of noticed that in dating sites, Indo girls were rather looking for someone within their age range, in average. The 20 something ones for instance are not looking for middle age bules. (the same goes for the Chinese)