Perseus on white girls not going for Asian guys, and differences between white women and Indonesian women.
White girls (e.g. Australian girls) have a reluctance to date/marry Asian men. It is quite common to see a white guy with an Asian girl but less common to see a white girl with an Asian guy.
Caucasian men are seen as more masculine (in that they are bigger, more muscular and more aggressive).
Asian girls are seen as more feminine (more petite, submissive, compliant).
Asian men are smaller, slighter, shorter and a white girl wants her man to be bigger than she is not smaller. She wants to look petite next to her big boyfriend not like an elephant next to a teeny tiny guy.
Elsewhere I have seen it suggested that penis size is a factor. Asian men are said to be less well endowed than Caucasian men (who are in turn less well endowed than African men). I am told by a white guy who lives in Bali and who has a handphone filled with the numbers of countless Indonesian mistresses that Indonesian men are reluctant to give women oral pleasure.
So, for the brown man who seeks to woo the white woman, the deck is stacked against you. This is not to discourage, merely to heighten your glory should you triumph. 🙂 You may need to learn some new tricks. Cunning linguistics for starters, chaps...
There are sharp differences between Ms Bule and Ms Indo.
Ms Bule will not ask you for taxi money, for shopping, for help with her rent or for handphone credit. She may even be insulted if you try to buy her dinner. There is no need to fork our for medical bills for her sick relations - the welfare state provides. She may insist on "going dutch" which means each person pays their share of the restaurant bill. This is not always so. Ms Bule is generally defensive about men buying her stuff initially until you prove that you are not a dickhead. Ms Indo, I suspect, might be gravely insulted if you expect her to pick up the tab for her own Long Island Tea.
Ms Bule is likely to be more adventurous and demanding in bed than Ms Indo. Ms Indo thinks getting naked, giving you a rub between the legs and parting her own legs is enough. Ms Bule will expect cunnilingus, will give fellatio and will expect an orgasm of some kind. Hopping on, sorting yourself out and not pleasuring Ms Bule will lead to your being dumped in short order. Ms Bule will be up for sex on the sofa, in the bathroom and on the kitchen table as well as in bed. Ms Bule probably owns a vibrator. If you are no good in bed, Ms Bule may well dump you. Ms Bule is likely to want varied positions (cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, doggy, spoon etc). She may even be up for anal but this is a minority preference.
Ms Bule will not tolerate you bossing her around in chauvinistic fashion. Though you are expected to read her mind and be decisive. (I.e magically decide to do what she wants to do.) This is tricky.
If you think Ms Bule is going to stay and home and cook and have your babies, you may be in for a shock. Ms Bule may have your babies and go back to work and put your babies in childcare. She may take a few years off and work part time until the youngest child is in primary school. She is unlikely to give up work completely to devote herself to family.
Ms Bule is unlikely to marry you unless you have lived together for a while first.
Ms Bule will indicate if marriage is on the cards by introducing you to her
friends and her family. However, it is quite normal for Ms Bule to have a boyfriend that never meets her parents. I have rarely introduced my girlfriends to my parents. Not meeting the parents is generally an indication that the relationship is not serious.
Most divorces in Australia are initiated by women.
There is no concept of the woman "following the man" in Australian law. Women have equal rights to men with regard to inheritance, property, voting etc. There is nothing like the differential treatment of men and women with respect to inheritance as found in Islamic Law. It is quite common for Ms Bule to earn more than Mr Bule.
On holiday, Ms Bule may fall in lust/love with a sultry eyed, handsome brown fellow with a smooth tongue and exotic turns of phrase.
My darling, my darling, you are so beautiful, I love you, I love you
seems to be the standard opening gambit of the Kuta Cowboy. White men never open like this. Maybe we should? Ms Bule will be happy to pay for dinner and drinks. However, when the holiday is over, she may not persist in staying in touch. She may decide her Kuta Cowboy was some holiday fun and leave it at that.
Ms Bule is more likely to engage in casual sex away from home. The double standard applies. The man who has many women is a stud; the woman who has many men is a slut. On holiday, lust can be indulged without paying a price with reputation. Tropical weather often inflames Ms Bule's passions. For Caucasian girls - summer is breeding time to give birth in spring 9 months later. Humidity often makes them horny. It also often makes them exhausted!
All women look for "social proof". Some evidence that you are solvent and can protect and provide. A degree of assertiveness and strength blended with kindness and consideration. Given the differences in income between Indonesia and Australia, this means an Indonesian guy has a big money mountain to climb here. However, love can conquer all.
It you catch her eye with your looks and your clothes, you are quarter way there. If you can break the ice, be funny and entertaining and can make a girl relaxed and laugh, you are halfway there. If you can listen to what she says and keep the conversation interesting and entertaining. If you believe in yourself and believe that women should want you then you are three quarters there. If you are firm but kind, strong but considerate, know when to isolate and know when to kiss then you will probably get over the line. If you can show her an aspect of Indonesia, she is not likely to experience in a tourist brochure, that is a good opening. Heck, if you can recite poetry and play a ukelele, you might be in like Flynn as white men have forgotten these seductive arts.
All the above statements are generalizations. You will find exceptions to all of them. There are some white girls who want to be kept as mistresses who will ask you for taxi money, rent or study assistance and/or a regular allowance. Some white girls like to be bossed around. Some want to wear the pants in the relationship and have a subservient man who will remove garbage when ordered. Some white women will simply not be interested in anything other other than a serious relationship view marriage with a man approved of by their parents. A few are still virgins on their wedding night.
When it comes to men and women, generalizations are always less interesting than the particular facts. All women are different. No two are the same. This is what makes them a source of endless fascination!